I'm not so much questioning a relationship, but marriage. When you do all that your are suppose to. Your loving, nurturing , supportive, bread winner, the one to cook, clean, help with homework, planning the trips, Planning romanctic escapades, doing all that you need to keep the fire lit. let's not talk about the love- making that's wonderful, but you tell me what are the basis to stay if you are about growth, moving up and your spouse is stagnant, and do not want to do anything, but stay home / sleep. There are no romantic dinners, no shopping sprees, no spending the time with children, no sit down at the dinner table, no helping with the bills except his/her own, don't want to move from their childhood neighborhood, among other don'ts. I 've heard many reasons
- You should love a man / women who stays home
- That's their personality and who they are
- Maybe thats how his/her parents were, and the list goes on.
Well, none of these make sense to stay with someone , but we do because we become comfortable and accustomed to it, complacent to say the least. Then you have some who look at from a Christian point of view and it gets deep. God says marriage is forever, forever for who even when your miserable, even when the person is going against what God has established as a foundation for what a Husband/ wife roles are. How can a man be a head of my house if the wife is acting like the Husband and the wife, and not becasue she wants to. I've had some tell me that only through infidelity will God allow you divorce, and even then he rather you try and work it out, Now we know that's a hard thing to do, that is a barrier that once it's crossed it's hard to get back.
It's getting so bad women turning to women, men turning to men. We need some brothers to step it up and some of you sisters need to get on your game too! The children are suffering. There are so many others areas of this topic that I want a discussion on, but for now let me know what you feel, what you think?
